Sober since April 6, 2006


Wednesday, August 22, 2007

she remembered me

She lived halfway across the country, but that didn't matter.

Every Christmas, she sent us grandchildren Christmas cards saying "I love you". She wrapped little gifts by hand and carefully printed our names, tiny trembles in each letter. Although I was just one of many grandchildren -- she always remembered me.

Every birthday, she sent me a birthday card saying "I love you". As a kid, I had to learn the hard cold fact that most people will forget my birthday since it falls between Christmas and New Year. But every year without fail -- she always remembered me.

Sometimes, she would randomly send a postcard or note -- just to say "I love you". Even on ordinary days during the year -- she remembered me.

She did so much for me, but I did so little for her. I didn't call when I should have. I didn't send her cards. I didn't even know when her birthday was.

The last time we talked on the phone, she asked me to come visit her. Remembering my busy work schedule and the amount of time and effort a trip halfway across the country would take, I replied, "I'd love to -- but I'll need to get some time off work ... "

I never made that visit.

She passed away Monday night, with all of her beloved children at her bedside.

I'll be boarding a plane tomorrow morning to make the visit that I wish I had made many months ago.

Although I knew she was in the hospital for the past few weeks, I didn't call or write. Even after I heard she took a turn for the worse, I still didn't call or write. I never took the time or effort to reach out to her.

The one thing I can't get out of my head:

She always remembered me.

So if you have a friend or family member that you've been putting off calling or visiting -- don't put it off any longer. Take the time and effort. Make that call today, and make that visit today. Let them know you love them ... let them know you remember them. Just let them know.


lash505 said...

she will be always with you. She was a wonderful person.

Anonymous said...

Touching. Poignant. Thanks you.

Trudging said...

Very, very touching! I too am sorry for your loss

Mary Christine said...

You will always remember what you learned and others will benefit from that.

As a grandmother, I can assure you that your grandmother understood. Really. We do know what it is like to be too busy. She just loved you and I am sure she didn't need one single thing back from you.

Thank you for the beautiful post.

recoveryroad said...

tkdjunkie, that was beautifully written. I'm sure your gran would have appreciated you remembering her as she remembered you.

I'm privileged to have read that. Thank you.



Thinking of you. x

An Irish Friend of Bill said...

Awww nice story Missy tkd. Good stuff. The people that love us are never very far away you know. Even the ones that have passed on. they are still 'there'. Wherever 'there' is. Just like at the end of the ET film, where he is about to go home in the spaceship and he says "I'll be right HERE".

Shadow said...

thanks... need to make a call or two!