Sober since April 6, 2006

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Thursday, April 13, 2006

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Hello, All

Feel free to introduce yourself or post overall feedback about my blog here :)

Anyone can make a comment or provide feedback anonymously, without needing a special account to do so.

Thanks for visiting my blog, and have a great day!

~tkdjunkie


23 comments:

en7en said...

You go, tkd! We all love you at mts2, and I'm praying for you!

Anonymous said...

I'm new in sobriety too. Its tough, real tough. But its not impossible! Keep it up and good luck to you.

Simsample said...

Hey Allie, nice blog- it's really well written and you are managing to clearly convey your experiences. I'm glad you're doing so well, missing you on the forums. Best wishes!

sirreene said...

I welcome you and hope that your journey is full of wonder!
my word verification: "hurraw"

Simsample said...

50 Days, Allie- Well done! You're doing great.

Simsample said...

70 days.... hang in there, you've nearly broken your record. A couple more days then you'll know you can really do anything!

Rebekah said...

Hello,
I just stumbled across your blog...I'm glad I did...I was reading your post about the sermon and i want to encourage you in your walk with the Lord. Rely on him for the strengh to endure anything that is brought your way...Keep on shining...because as Mac Powell Writes (my favortie all time singer by the way)..."you must go through a valley to stand upon a Mountain with God." Keeping you in prayer

Simsample said...

Wow Allie, you've reached 100 days and it seems like you've progressed much further than that time would allow! I hope you keep up the martial arts, having something new as a challenge is a good thing. Well done!

Kathy said...

Hey Allie,

I decided to check your blog to see how you were doing and wow. I am so proud of you. Hopefully your story will prove to be a testament to someone else that they can quit drinking.

**hug**
Kath

Lara said...

Hi! I stumbled across your blog - my name is Lara and I'm a recovering alcoholic. See my blog here: www.sobermoms.com/weblog!

glad to be a part of the group!!

Noor Azman Othman GBE said...

I'm a Recovery Blogger from Malaysia. Thank you for being a friend and for linking My Blog.

Feel free to email me whenever you want to.

Greeting from Malaysia.

vetver said...

I am really enjoying your blog... sounds like you are working a good program too. {{hugs}} from your fellow traveler in recovery, Vetver

Anonymous said...

online games are a great distraction...lol

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great site btw. :)

fugitive247 said...

Found your blog while searching for images of 12 year medallions. Found "RTFM" and *had* to stumble it. Classic, hon!

Please don't simply "keep coming back." Stay!!! Thanks for sharing the miracle. {{{hugs}}}

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Thanks and have a great day!

venturefoward said...

I THINK YOU HAVE A GIFT. KEEP CARRYING THE MESSAGE. I AM SOBER 17 YEARS AND IT SEEMS MY DAILY ROUTING INCLUDES FEAR AND TREPIDATION. A REGULAR MEETING MAKER, I DO NOT KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITH OUT THE SEDATIVE EFFECT OF THE MEETINGS, FELLOWSHIP AND PRAYER.

Anonymous said...

My mom is an alcoholic, but not until I was grown and out of the house. I have known of her addiction for five years now, and I have tried to get her help and be supportive. I did not visit my parents this holiday because I did not want to put my kids in harms way. After this, she has blamed me for her addiction and is throwing bad choices I made in college as the reason for her addiction. I know this is not my fault, but I am still very hurt with the accusation. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I should approach this?

tkdjunkie said...

Hi, Anonymous

When I was drinking, I sincerely felt like people, situations, or even society itself made me drink. If someone hurt my feelings, I would get drunk and think, "See what they made me do???" -- as if they had personally reached out and forced the bottle down my throat. Of course they didn't "make" me drink. They just did something that pushed me beyond my ability to cope. When I couldn't cope, I drank. Was that their fault? No, but at the time I genuinely believed it was their fault.

I was very sick emotionally and spiritually. It took some time and sobriety working the steps in AA to realize that I drank because I chose to -- because I didn't know how to cope with life, and I saw drinking as the only escape. When I became desperate enough to stop drinking, I became willing to learn how to cope with life in more healthy ways.

There are few mental conditions more destructive and agonizing than alcoholism. It has to be self-diagnosed by someone who doesn't want to believe they have it. And then it has to be rigorously worked through in a dramatic, life-changing way by someone who practically gets suicidal over a broken shoelace. It takes a very powerful event to make an alcoholic desperate enough to break through these barriers. They seem so insignificant to most people, but to alcoholics, they seem impossible.

I don't have an alcoholic parent, so it's hard to know how to advise you. My suggestion would be to look into AlAnon. It's a support group for family and friends of alcoholics. They are the best experts when it comes to handling these types of situations.

A good place to start online is the Sober Recovery Forums. They have a forum dedicated to friends and family of alcoholics. There's also a forum for Adult Children of Alcoholic Parents.

The important thing is to know that although you may have made mistakes in the past that upset and hurt her, she drinks because she's sick. She blames you because she's sick. She feels helpless about her drinking because she's sick.

For your own wellbeing, it's a good idea to find support from other people in similar situations. Just help "you" for now. Your mom has to help herself, and there's nothing you can do to make her help herself.

I hope this helps in some way. I wish you (and your mom) the best.

Anonymous said...

my name is mike. i'm a 45 yr old male, professional, graduate degree, community leader, married 18 yrs, 2 children, and both me and my wife come from terrible, dysfunctional families. i alomost lost my house, had to file bankruptcy to save it, make plenty of money and feel im probably the most misreable person on earth. i drink about 10 beers everyday and am overweight and look in the mirror daily with disgust. i have no one to talk to. i have tried AA several times with no avail. im lonely and am in fear for my health. im just hoping i find a sincere person to chat with online at this point. this is a huge step for me to do this and hope something good can come out of this. thanks

tkdjunkie said...

Hi, Mike

You don't have to feel like that anymore.

The most important thing anyone ever told me is that "You never have to take another drink again if you don't want to." I found that to be true.

The first step I took was looking to other alcoholics online. The Sober Recovery Forum was a great place to start -- because it's anonymous, I didn't have to see anyone face-to-face (I wasn't ready for that yet), and I could read & discuss recovery with people from various walks of life and various lengths of sobriety. There is a forum there just for men alcoholics too -- sometimes talking to someone of the same gender is a huge help.

Hang in there, keep reaching out, be open to the ideas of other people who have found ways to stay sober. Keep in mind that doing things your way made you miserable -- so be open to trying new things and ideas that have worked for other people. We're never as unique as we think we are.

If you're looking for folks to chat with, check out the Sober Recovery Forums.

I hope this helps, I wish you well -- you really don't have to feel that way anymore.

Anonymous said...

Thank you I just happened across your blog ( Iam too am a friend of Bills 20 years sober and counting ) still learning from all of you ...loved the forgiveness post : Forgiveness

"God, help me to be the person my dog thinks I am."
thank you. aamamma

venturefoward said...

I dont know what happened. Is this it? where are you? Cash and prizes takin you out?

Hopeful said...

I read your blog about the pamphlet "Acceptance" and just had to have it for myself. It has helped remind me of just how much Acceptance can change my life and the lives of those I love. Acceptance came at the exact right time for all of us. My son is an alcoholic in the early stages of recovery and working very hard. I shared it with him. Hope he read it. Thanks.